Our needle in the haystack!

My daughter, Meghan was diagnosed with Epilepsy 12 years ago last week. Thinking about those 12 years becomes very emotional! When I think about all that Meghan has been through and our whole family has encountered it becomes very overwhelming. We did all the conventional Epilepsy treatments including: medications(I think we have been on 15 drugs), Ketogenic diet, modified Atkins diet, VNS(vagus nerve stimulator), and brain surgery. With every new treatment we hoped, prayed that this one would be the one that would work. We would go through the honeymoon period, that Meghan would be better and then it would all go back to what had occurred or worse. It painstakingly slow when we decided to change medications, treatments. You see, Meghan was very sensitive. I am talking sometimes when we changed medications, or treatments she would be worse. I remember thinking to myself I am doing this to her! How can these treatments that are supposed to help her make her worse. It doesn't seem right. I, found my gut and acted on it.

Fast forward to 2006 was when our world changed. We decided to take a different approach to her Epilepsy and begin homeopathy. I give me dear friend Elizabeth the credit since she referred us. This was her homeopath and was seeing good results for her daughter that also had severe Epilepsy. Our mindset changed with this new treatment. It was not miracle by any means that she was cured or talked. It took years to see results but what we saw from homeopathy, was that it helped jumpstart her immune system. Her colds and sicknesses didn't land us in the ER anymore and she was able to fight off illness better each year. At the same time coordinated carefully we started working with a Dan(defeat autism now) doctor. We began our journey with supplements, allergy testing and blood tests. As we began adding these supplements into her already complicated regime I really didn't see a big change. I questioned myself and why we were spending all the money on this treatment. But what I found in 2010 was nothing short of a substantial needle in a haystack. My Dan doctor had talked to me and told me in the very beginning that he thought she had inflammation. Ok I said what do you do about that? So we tried yeast protocol which landed her in the ER because of a full body drop and 9 stitches. We tried that 2x each time huge reaction. So in the summer of 2010 we did a trial to see if we would see a change in her seizures. Well you guessed it we did. A 50% reduction. So for the full week we went from 14 seizures a week to 7. We couldn't believe it. We began the slow process of getting her on non steroidal anti inflammatories. It took all summer to get her on it and she reacted with every increase, but we kept with it. 2 years later we are still seeing the payoff of 50-70% reduction. During this time we continue to see our neurologist who at first wasn't really on board. He is a very open minded physician actually the first one that would listen to some of the alternative treatment. He told me it wouldn't hurt but probably wouldn't help! As he saw the months turn into years he is now a believer. We think this is huge! Incidentally that year at the American Epilepsy Society meeting inflammation was in several of the presentations. Now as I listen to webinars, read articles from physicians, inflammation is mentioned very often. We don't have anymore treatments from our neurologist but as the Epilepsy community does their studies and the results come in maybe we will have more meshing of physicians from the Autism and Epilepsy world.

I tell you our story because it wasn't something anyone mentioned for 12 years in the Epilepsy arena and maybe it would help your child. I'm not sure if the Autism is part of it or not but finding a doctor to be willing to try it would be worth it.

I feel that this treatment is giving us a clue maybe testing, additional treatments or diets that will further help her have even less seizures! If I knew then what I know now I would start the alternative treatments sooner and finding a neurologist that was open minded to all of this. They are hard to come by but finding one is essential for our kids, adolescents that are not responding to conventional Epilepsy treatments.

I hope you will keep looking for your needle in a haystack and never give up!

My beautiful daughter

It was the coldest night of the year in Wisconsin on Saturday.  We had talked about going to the dance at her high school. This would be the second one  she has attended.  She clearly showed me on her iPad with the yes / no icon that she wanted to go!  Sometimes she pushes either button just to give me a response but this one was deliberate and as she looked into my eyes as she pushed it I felt her presence!  Her and I have bonded in a way that is hard to describe.  Since she hasn't really talked since 2006 I have learned her gestures, emotions and feelings in her expressions.  I wake up in the middle of the night if she is going to have a seizure-and I feel her frustration and a problem clearly before it happens.
This was one of the interactions that a felt like this.  If Meghan could talk like you and I, she would say something like this. "Mom thanks so much for thinking that I wanted to go to the  dance!" It's hard to have every picture available and every thought on paper to get her point across.  But, I felt I got it right this time.  This was more defined but the same theme as when I first took her to her first dance when she was in 6th grade.  I bring her in, take pictures and follow her around.  This time being high school it's allowing her to have more independence.  She still relies on me a lot and requires someone to watch out for her safety. Now we are trying to teach her how to be social.  She has lost those skills.  This beautiful friend of hers that we have had some interactions with from our church, came to the dance at the same time.  She was also the one that asked her to dance with their group.  For most, this really isn't a big deal but for Meghan and this group of friends it was very big.  She enjoys being around her peers and getting these short times of normal peer interaction, social experiences and fun is nothing short of pure joy for me!  I see her light up as she sees her friends and I see her friends trying to interact with her.  It's progress, it's life and it's beautiful to watch.
My eyes are open to new experiences to give to Meghan.  For most kids like Meghan, that have severe Epilepsy, we really don't know how long she will live.  This is the truth and something I keep close to my  heart and make the right decisions knowing that!  I honestly didn't think she would make it to high school and now here we are.  So when I see her growing, medically so much more stable and enjoying  her life as a highschooler at Arrowhead, I look for new opportunities that she will enjoy!  The dance being one of them.  I think as I find more experiences that she finds joy in she becomes more confident that she can do more and I think it opens more doors everyday for her future.
I know why God had me become an Occupational Therapist.  It was to learn that it was so important to give those skills to people to become more independent.  This is the same for Meghan.  I find it that there are some people that can do this naturally but most its very difficult.  It's difficult for them to let her fail.  Its hard to watch her struggle with zipping up her jacket.  It's painstaking heartbreaking to watch her forget how to do the simplest task.  But if we give up what will she do? Will she be better off if we do it for her and how will she function? That is why I continue to challenge her and give her opportunities that many would not do.  Some parents will resolve to have her stay home from the dance because it would be too hard, too emotional, too tiring and really didn't think there was a purpose.  I, on the other hand feel this is giving  her the confidence, success and the feeling of community at her high school.
I am very proud of meghan, and how she is improving in all aspects of her life.  It thrills me that she has so many interests and is willing to try new activities.  My beautiful Meghan will turn 16 this year.  Even though she will never drive a car and will need help the rest of her life, she has brought so much more to my life.  That is how I make sense of all of this.
For now, we enjoy these successes-actually they are miracles in our journey!  Find your miracles in your life and revel in them.